Happy Thursday ELDers! ;) I’ve done several posts about needing a wedding planner throughout the lifetime of ELD, but I realized that I haven’t done one in a while… or if I have, they were pretty specific. (See the end of the post for a full list of all these other posts.) And I just feel like it’s about time for another, so here goes! :) [Please note: I am writing (most of) this as a bride, not as someone who has planned weddings!]
Honestly, every bride needs a wedding planner. Every bride should have a wedding planner. Every bride DESERVES as wedding planner. Oh, and NEWSFLASH: Wedding planners aren’t just for daddy’s little girls, movie stars, and debutantes (no offense to any of those ladies, because I was at least one anyways) anymore my friends! Here’s the thing: having a wedding planner doesn’t need to be considered “optional” or a “luxury”. I myself used to think this. Until I realized that planners really aren’t that expensive- you just have to find the right one.
So with those key things said… over the past few years, I’ve heard lots of reasons for why a bride thinks she doesn’t need a wedding planner. And honestly, most are things that they’ve told themselves so they feel better about it. So for today, let’s just go over those “reasons”, and I’m going to respond to them with the cold hard truth, okay? Okay. :)
“I’m on a tight budget.”
Everyone is on a budget. And most everyone is on a tight budget. But you know what? If you have a wedding planner, she or he will be able to HELP you with that budget. They will tell you what you need and what you don’t need. They might even be able to pull a few strings here or there (not saying they WILL, but it does help to know someone). And you know what else? When it comes to cost and selection, there are LOTS of planners out there. I’m sure you can find one that fits within your budget (just make sure you like them too- that’s another post though!). If you need to, make it work- cut out 10 guests, don’t get those expensive bridesmaid gifts, or forgo cocktail napkins. I promise that it will be the BEST money you spend. And one other thing (speaking as former wedding planner now)… I can’t even count how many times I’ve saved my brides money. Just saying.
“I want to be able to plan my own wedding.”
Heck yes, of course you want to plan your own wedding- so did I! But you want the FUN parts of planning your wedding. Not the stressful/annoying/crazy parts. Like tracking down prices. Or getting vendors to call you back/respond to you. Or receiving deliveries and overseeing setup. If you have a wedding planner, you WILL still be planning your wedding. You WILL still have control over what happens for your wedding. I promise you, you will. It will just be with more guidance, knowledge, and a directed focus. And on the day of… oh my goodness, you’ll be able to just BE A BRIDE! Let go of everything and enjoy your day! :)
“I have a specific vision for my wedding and I don’t want to trust anyone else to execute it.”
All the more reason to have a planner! I promise you, if you have a planner that you connect with, he or she is going to understand what you are envisioning for your wedding. More so than anyone else, because they will know how to successfully make it happen for you! As far as having your vision reflect YOU, you would actually be surprised at hard planners work to get to know you and make sure your wedding reflects you and your fiance. :) If you hire the right planner, they WILL NOT force their own wants upon you for your wedding- they want it to be YOUR wedding, not theirs or someone else’s! [Note from my former wedding planner self: All of the past brides that I've worked closely with to design and plan their weddings, I actually now consider my friends (love you ladies!)- because we connected and I understood their visions. In fact, it was like we were on the same wavelength- even with some creepy ESP moments. ;)]
“I want to design/craft/DIY/play with my sister/friend/mother/aunt/grandmother/etc while planning my wedding.”
Having a wedding planner will not take the joy and fun out of doing wedding things with your family and friends. If that’s what you want, do it. Your planner will probably actually have suggestions or tips for whatever you’re doing! You can still design your whole wedding with your sister, or craft with your best friend, or bake cookies with your grandmother. You can have a planner even if you want other people to be involved with your wedding. :)
“My sister/friend/cousin just got married and she is going to plan my wedding.”
“My sister/friend/cousin/mom/aunt/grandmother has done other weddings and is going to plan my wedding.”
Okay, so this can only apply if your sister/friend/cousin/aunt/mother/grandmother IS a wedding planner. ;) [And mind you, if they are, they'll probably make you hire someone for the day of the wedding so they can enjoy it (friends of mine, you've been warned!).] So other than that situation, you want to be able to ENJOY your planning experience with your family members. You don’t want to butt heads with your mom or hate your sister/friend by the end of the planning process. In the case of someone who has recently gotten married wanting to help you, sure, take their suggestions on what vendors they used for their own wedding, but that’s really as far as you need to go. Plus, wouldn’t it be better to have fun with them during your wedding planning instead of stressing them (and yourself) out?
And then there’s the DAY OF the wedding. You want your sister/friend/cousin/aunt/mother/grandmother to ENJOY your wedding, right?! I guarantee you they want to enjoy it too! (Take it from me- I’ve planned friends weddings before, and it’s no fun to have to sit on the sidelines and be the wedding planner when everyone else is having fun!) And you don’t want them spending the day of your wedding (or the day before for that matter) schlepping things all around your venue, overseeing setup, calling vendors, dealing with messes, etc etc. It’s hard work ladies… you don’t want to wish that on any of the people you love. ;)
Okay, so here’s the thing- most ALL venues have “planners”. The truth of the matter is that they’re there to SELL to you. They are salespeople who handle logistical matters for the venue, therefore needing to have a relationship with you. They sell the venue, the food, the space, and the fact that they’ll be there to help you “plan”… but they won’t. Their concern is the venue. When it comes to “planning”, the only thing they’re going to do is ask you when you want dinner to start. They won’t make appointments for you, help you pick out your stationery, or create a timeline for your whole wedding day. They’re going to be there on the day of your wedding, but they won’t be there when you need them to do your bustle, hold your bouquet, tell you when to cut the cake, or put your overnight bags in the limo. Heck, most of them hightail it home after the cake is cut! So please please PLEASE don’t consider a “venue planner” as an excuse for not having YOUR OWN wedding planner. (PS- my venue had a planner too… she was gone as soon as guests were done with dinner.)
“I really really really can’t afford a wedding planner.”
Okay, well if you’ve weighed the options and you really can’t afford to have a wedding planner help you with the full planning of your wedding, there are alternatives! Many planners have smaller packages available- “partial” planning so to speak. This is always a great option if you’ve already found your venue and hired a few vendors but need help with logistics, design, etc. Can’t afford that? Move on to another option… “Month Of” planning (sometimes known as Day-Of, which is actually a big fat LIE because no one can walk into a wedding on the day of and know what’s going on). This will at least ensure that you have all your ducks in a row for the wedding day. You will have help in creating your wedding day timeline, confirming your vendors, and most of all, handling everything on the day-of the wedding! So if you can’t spring for a planner, at least have a coordinator!
Oh and one more thing- with how hard all of you ladies are working in your fabulous jobs that I know you all have, why on Earth would you want to add ANOTHER FULL TIME job to your workload?! Wedding planning take a lot of time, so why not leave it to someone who knows what their doing- and whose job it already is?!
I know the biggest thing that it comes down to when deciding whether or not you need a planner is money. Yep, everyone is on a budget, I know that. But the thing is, a planner might not be as much as you think they are. Sure, there are some planners that charge a lot, but there are also some that don’t charge as much. You have lots and lots of options out there when it comes to planners- it won’t hurt anything to look around and ask what their packages and costs are! You CAN have a wedding planner. You NEED a wedding planner… because you deserve one! You deserve to have an amazing, stress-free wedding! :)
Make sure you’ve read the other wedding planner posts that I’ve written too… like 10 Signs You Might Need A Wedding Planner, 5 Things To Know About… Wedding Planners, Full Planning VS Day-Of Coordination, Wedding Coordinator VS Venue Coordinator, Do You Have A Wedding Planner?
So, now that all of that is out in the open, do you have a reason for why you think you don’t need a wedding planner? Share here, maybe I can shed some light on it for you! And any wedding planners reading this, if you have any other reasons to add, please do (with the explanation too of course)!