by: Lauren

In my time in the wedding world, I’ve noticed lots of talk about the average cost of a wedding- both online and offline. The thing about this is that every wedding is different- just as every couple is different- so it’s really quite difficult to make an overarching “average cost of a wedding” statement. Today I’d like to chat about these differences, and how they relate to what weddings cost.

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Usually, whenever I hear the words “average cost of a wedding”, I immediately think of the surveys that I’ve conducted on this particular subject, surveying wedding professionals about what their average brides spend with them.

I’ve conducted this survey twice now, and am on my third one, because if there’s anything that I learned when planning my own wedding, and then several others professionally, it was that brides and grooms usually have no idea about what to expect things to cost. This unfortunately leads to surprise and disappointment when you hear what things will cost for you wedding, thus taking the fun out of wedding planning- and quite frankly, planning a wedding should be an enjoyable experience!

As I’m sure you know, I’m all about couples gaining knowledge about weddings, and I think that you deserve to have some kind of expectation of what to expect things to cost. Many of the surveys that are out there reporting on the “average cost of weddings” include data of weddings that range from one spectrum to the other. This includes weddings that were $5,000 and weddings that were $100,000. If you know anything about data, having such a big variant in numbers doesn’t really end up yielding an accurate average. In my opinion, the typical “average cost of wedding” surveys are totally unrealistic, and reporting this inaccurate information is a disservice to brides all over!

[Editor’s note: When I was a wedding planner, I rarely planned weddings with a budget of less than $35,000. My couples used professional vendors, they and their parents contributed to their wedding costs, and they wanted their guests to have a great time. These are the weddings that I myself know, and this is why I provide the information on Every Last Detail in the way that I do.] 

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So now let’s talk about the *difference* that exists among weddings. Every wedding is different because every couple’s story, budget, life, etc is different- no two weddings are the same. This is common sense, right? But the issue is that this difference makes it quite difficult to gather statistics about weddings and report about them. Whether we’re talking about money, decor, food, or even attire- it’s really hard to lump one wedding in with another.

For example- a DIY backyard wedding is way different than a wedding taking place at a luxury Palm Springs hotel. There’s nothing at all wrong with either of those weddings- they’re just different! The fact that people have their own personalities, likes, and style translates into couples wanting something in particular for their wedding, and to me, that is a beautiful thing.

As I mentioned in the example above, since weddings are different, you can’t really compare a luxury wedding to one that is more economical. There are so many elements involved in each- it’s like comparing an apple to an orange! You really can’t compare a $10,000 wedding to a $80,000 wedding. I know you want to, but just don’t do it- it’s not fair to yourself!

Now I know we all hate talking about numbers and budgets and pricing, but the truth of the matter is that money is what makes (most) weddings happen. In my time in the wedding industry, I’ve learned that weddings can often times be divided into different budget “categories”. These budget differentiations are primarily why with The V List, I have members indicate what their pricing categories are based on the total budgets of their average brides- so brides know that they are looking at vendors who are in their budget. These categories can definitely be further elaborated upon, but the basics are as follows:

$ = Total wedding budget up to $30,000 

$$ = Total wedding budget $30,000-$90,000

$$$ = Total wedding budget $90,000+  


So my big question is this:

Why are we lumping all of these different types of weddings in with one another when we talk about the “average cost of a wedding” and “what weddings cost”?

 


The answer to this question is that we shouldn’t be talking about weddings like they are all the same– because thankfully, they’re not! So when it comes down to it, you really can’t- and please don’t- rely on the numbers out there indicating the “average cost of a wedding”.

 


Want more insight on wedding costs? Check out these posts: 

What Does A Wedding Cost? What To Expect When Using Professional Vendors

Wedding Budget 101

Why Do Weddings Cost So Much?!

 

A version of this post was originally published in August 2013.



by: Lauren

Soft spring peach and white blooms, loose greenery, delicate details, and a touch of natural wood accents tie together these elegant rustic vineyard wedding ideas beautifully. Amanda Day Rose created a gorgeous stationery suite calligraphed by Hello Love Events, featuring soft peach envelopes and raw edged paper, and the whimsical organic bouquet adds the perfect attention to detail to pull off this elegant spring inspiration.

We are totally loving the collaboration between Hello Love Events and Amanda Day Rose as they parlayed their skills in numerous ways, and really complimented each other’s work with everything they created. We are thrilled to share the work of these two, captured so very beautifully by Terri Baskin Photography.

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Every element truly blended in the perfect way to create a beautifully cohesive style. Mixing spring elegance with rustic touches really complimented the look by adding masculine details to a typically feminine look, and we love it!

 

VENDORS WHO MADE IT ALL HAPPEN…

Florals & Stationery​ Design​: Amanda Day Rose // Photography: Terri Baskin Photography // Venue: Early Mountain Vineyards // Coordination​ & ​Styling: Hello Love Events // ​Calligraphy: Hello Love Events // Desserts: Sorby Sweets // Gown: Gossamer // Vintage Rentals: Paisley & Jade  // Hair & Make-Up: BobbyPins & Blush

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by: Lauren

Aubrie and Trae’s love story started in middle school, took them to college in New Orleans, and despite celebrating their marriage with an Atlanta wedding, they found ways to incorporate details inspired by their time in Louisiana as well as their own personal style and cultural roots.

Long garlands of greenery were mixed with magnolia leaves as a nod to Louisiana’s state flower, the magnolia, while other tables were adorned with linens featuring an architectural pattern inspired by the cast iron gates and balconies of creole homes. The menu for the day was full of savory Southern dishes, and specialty cocktails of French 75s and Southern Mules were made with the venue’s own American Spirit Whiskey. Every detail- the design, the menu, the naming of tables, even the photobooth, carried subtle nods to the place that Aubrie and Trae’s love continued to blossom.

This couple’s wedding day was not only beautiful, but carried so much personality, and truly allowed their guests to celebrate the journey of their love story. Rustic White Photography captured not only the love and emotion, but also this story in the most perfect way.

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Did you catch some of the special details that gave guests a peak into their story? We love the simple elegance that they created in this industrial blank space, and they really made it their own. We also can’t get enough of the incredible feature that their bars created complete with the large custom chalkboards and hanging arrangements. They are definitely eye catchers!

VENDORS WHO MADE IT ALL HAPPEN…

Photography: Rustic White Photography // Event Design & Coordination: Molly McKinley Designs // Florist: Tulip // Cake: For Goodness Cakes // Makeup: Becca Whittinghill // Hair:  Melanie Bell // Wedding Dress: Stella York from Bel Fiore // Bridesmaid Dresses: Purchased from BHLDN & Bride Beautiful // Menswear: The Modern Gent // Wedding Shoes: Badgley Mischa // Invitation Suite: Plain Janes // Catering: Bold American Events // Linens: I Do Linens // Ceremony Music: Piedmont Strings // Venue: The Stave Room at American Spirit Works // Custom Chalkboards: Kate Turner Studio // Rentals: Southern Vintage // Furniture Rentals: Collection Event Furnishings



by: Lauren

Bob and Teresa’s backyard wedding was held at Bob’s parents’ house, nestled along the Indian River on Florida’s east coast. The simple vintage style was highlighted throughout the design of the day, from the bride’s bouquet mixing lavender and a collection of beautiful brooches, to vintage furniture and the history of love behind their “family tree.” They collected twigs and vines from a hurricane that hit their area just a couple weeks before their wedding day, and created wreaths to add to their decor.

The attention to detail in their design created the perfect classic vintage style, and Lisa Marshall Photography captured so much beauty and joy as they celebrated their day. Seriously, it is hard to find a photo of this bride and groom where their smiles aren’t stretching from ear to ear, and we’re so excited to start our week off sharing their day with you!

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We just love this couple’s sweet Southern vintage style and fun details they incorporated into their day. The fun bar setup, the clever “family tree,” and the oreo “cake” are definitely some of our favorites in their design, and we love how their personality and simple style really shined through in every detail of their day.

 

VENDORS WHO MADE IT ALL HAPPEN…

Photographer:  Lisa Marshall Photography // Floral Designer: Buds Etc. Floral Studio // Heirlooms and Extras: Crystal & Crates // Lighting: Get Lit Orlando // Caterer: Green Turtle Market // Band: Hot Pink // Event Planner: L.I.F.E. Events // Makeup Artist: Makeup by Tara // Hair Stylist: Adore Salon // Invitation Designer: Minted // Equipment Rentals: Orlando Wedding and Party Rentals