Today is my husband and I’s 2 year anniversary. We had a great weekend together, not really doing much of anything. Yep, we’re pretty boring already. And this morning, we went and got blood work done together. No lie. I felt like we were celebrating 52 years, not 2. But hey, at least we were together- and they even let us be in the same room! ;)
Photo by CvB Photography
In the 2 years that we’ve been married and the almost 10 years we’ve been together, we’ve probably been through more than most newly married couples have. Deaths, divorces, weddings, graduations, new dog, career changes, moves, hospital stays, 911 calls, near-death experiences, starting a business, oh and of course getting married. :) We’re FAR from a perfect couple, and we know that and celebrate it. It’s what makes us “us”. I hate when I read or hear marriage tips from people who act like their marriage is perfect, because no one is perfect, right? So I thought I would share a few marriage tips today, straight from a real
“not-so-perfect” married couple.
1. Keep things simple. This means everything- your house/apartment, your finances, your dates, whatever. The simpler the better.
2. Take care of each other. DUH- this is a given, but sometimes you have to consciously remember this. You might get so wrapped up in something else that you forget to do it.
3. It’s okay to fight. Unfortunately, it’s just part of life. We all know this, but when you have your first married fight, it feels different. But it’s not- it’s just a normal fight, a disagreement. Bottom line- a fight is okay. It’s not the end of your marriage. :)
4. You don’t have to spend money to go on a “date”. It took me a little while to get over the “we-don’t-have-any-money-so-we-can’t-do-anything” thing. Heck, a date for us is considered taking a walk or driving around town- because we’re on a budget and can’t afford to go out to dinner every week. It’s about spending dedicated time together, not what you’re doing.
5. Cook together. This is one of my husband’s tips. :) Even if you don’t know how to cook, it’s a great learning experience to cook together. Each person gets their own portion of the meal to take care of, and then it all comes together into a complete meal. [If you can’t cook together all the time, maybe take turns fixing dinner if you’re able to.] And as for cleanup, well we’ve found that it’s best to do it together too. :) [It’s always good to grocery shop together too. This is a weekly must for us.]
Yeah, so I know they’re not life-changing tips, but they’re real, and they’ve worked for us for 2 years so far. For all of you planning your weddings, these are all things that you can use now, before you’re married too. Because you don’t want to forget the goal of planning your wedding- a marriage. :)
Happy 2 year anniversary Schuyler- I love you!