Happy Thursday ELD-ers (I’m going to use that from now often, I hope it won’t annoy you too much)! I have a confession to make. Every Wednesday night, I tweet my followers and ask them what they want brides to know more about, or if they’re brides, what they want to know about. I have tons of Thursday Tips posts that I’m working on, but I feel like I need to be fired up and passionate about whatever I post on Thursday, so most of them are just draft posts, sitting and waiting to be developed. And so I ask people for what they want to know about because I want to be helping you all with my posts! So Elizabeth, thank you for tweeting me what you needed help with- this one’s for you love! :)
Choosing your wedding date. It’s one of the first things you have to do after you get engaged. But it’s a huge commitment. It’s saying that you have X number of days until you’re married. At the same time, it’s also saying you have X number of days to get tons of things done! I know some people who have put off choosing their wedding date just for the fact that they wanted to enjoy being engaged. That’s great! I encourage it- revel in your engagement! But at some point you’re going to have to choose. So here are some things that you should consider when choosing your wedding date…
– Time of year. You’ll want to consider the time of year for various reasons. Weather is a big one for people- especially here in Florida and in Southern states. Next, time of year should be considered if either of you are teachers, still in school, or have any kind of schedule restrictions (I know accountants are pretty busy during March/April). The seasons are a big one that kind of go along with the weather, but also kind of don’t. Maybe the two of you absolutely love Fall or Summer. That would definitely be something to consider.
– Meaningful dates. Yes, I know it’s cheesy, but if you can get married on your dating anniversary, wouldn’t that be nice? Just take a look at the meaningful dates on your calendar. Your anniversary, birthdays, other people’s anniversaries, graduations, existing trips, holidays, etc. Someone in your family is bound to have a 14 day cruise planned or a big conference going on or something. You’ll want to work around those to avoid future mishaps. Oh and something else that coincides with meaningful dates is whether or not you want your birthday (or someone else’s) to be near your wedding anniversary. Personally I could care less because I never do anything for my birthday, but I know some people really like their celebrations. :)
[Editor’s note: I remember that I wanted to get married in November, but the way the year panned out there weren’t enough Saturdays before Thanksgiving- or something to that effect. And then the next date I chose, my brother was going to be deployed, so we moved it up a month with the hopes he would be able to make it (turned out he was already deployed though).]
– Length of your engagement. Didn’t expect to see that one didya? But it’s true- the amount of time that you want to (or don’t want) be engaged should play a part in choosing your date. So right now for instance. It’s October. If you wanted to have a winter wedding in February, you could either plan it for next year and have 4 months to plan, or plan it for 2013 and have 16 months to plan. Big difference huh? If you’re a big planner, I would suggest a long engagement. I’m not saying a wedding can be planned with short engagement- I’ve done it. Twice (for other people of course). But it’ll be a lot of stuff all at once. The length of your engagement will come into play once you decide on the time of year you want to have your wedding.
– Availability. Oh the dreaded word availability. Once you decide and evaluate the things above, don’t settle on an exact date unless you have to. Because now everything hangs in the balance of finding your venue and then it’s availability. In an effort to have the best wedding you possibly can, I suggest having a range of dates so that you can do your venue searching and choose the one that you like best. If you’re set on a specific date, your venue options are going to be more limited (especially if you’re planning with only a few months!). Also, if you already have your heart set on a photographer or any other vendor, you may have to work within their availability as well.
– Other tidbits… Okay so these things aren’t MUSTS when deciding on your wedding date, but they might help you out if you’re stuck.
-Your color palette for your wedding could coincide with a season if you really want it to, although I say that you can have whatever colors you want whenever you want. ;)
– It also helps to know what style of wedding you want to have, especially since you’ll be looking for venues!
– If there are certain types of decor elements that you know you want or a certain type of food or dessert, those might work better seasonally.
– And if you really want to get into it, if you just MUST have a certain type of flower (I’m thinking peonies) you’ll want to have your date be in their growing season. :)
All of these things are definitely good to consider when choosing your wedding date. And just remember- choose the date that feels right to you and your fiance. It’s the date that you’ll remember for the rest of your lives. :)
Brides, now I want to hear from you! Are you newly engaged and trying to decide on your wedding date? Comment on this post and maybe we can help you out! Or if you already have your wedding date, let us know what your deciding factor was!