by: Lauren

Why You Dont Want A Pinterest Wedding via TheELD.com

Remember when no one knew what Pinterest was?

And when there was no such thing as a “Pinterest Wedding”? 

I’ve noticed myself and others saying these things a lot lately, because when it comes to weddings, Pinterest can be both a blessing and curse. I first happened upon this “new thing called Pinterest” back in 2011, and when I told people about how awesome it was, everyone looked at me like I was crazy. But now, 2 years later, everyone and their moms (literally) are pinning things left and right! Now don’t get me wrong- Pinterest is awesome, and I absolutely love it! But when it comes to weddings, Pinterest has started to cause a bit of an issue- the “Pinterest Wedding”. [Read this post: Using Pinterest To Plan Your Wedding]

[Some background info/history: Pinterest is amazing for wedding inspiration and ideas, but it has also been “killing” originality in weddings. You see, with weddings, “trends” would usually make their rounds over the span of 2 to 3 years, but now thanks to Pinterest, these “trends” are perpetuated even longer than this, thus becoming old news. So sure, there are tons of GREAT ideas and inspiration for weddings on Pinterest, but those same ideas and inspiration are being seen by just about every bride who is on Pinterest.] 

So what exactly is a Pinterest Wedding, and what can you do to avoid it?

A “Pinterest Wedding” is one in which many of the details and concepts have come directly from Pinterest. No tweaks, no putting your own twist on it, just replicated from Pinterest. You may have even attended a wedding, in which you found yourself saying, “Oh, I saw that table number on Pinterest” or something of the like- that my friends, is a Pinterest Wedding.

Over the years, I’ve heard from past brides about how upset they were when they found out that one of their friends copied things from their own wedding. Well, Pinterest does just that- only it takes things a bit more global. When you replicate things seen on Pinterest, you are doing what was right for THAT bride, not what is right for YOU. [Read this post: Inspiration, Not Replication] You don’t want to have what every other bride in the world is going to be having, right? Take the things you see, be inspired by them, and figure out how to put your own unique spin on it- you might even come up with something even BETTER than what you originally saw on Pinterest!

Now with all this said, let me be clear- I LOVE Pinterest, and I still think it’s amazing for finding wedding inspiration and ideas. This is NOT a Pinterest witch hunt. ;) However, you shouldn’t be designing your whole entire wedding design and details from what you saw on Pinterest. Use it to get ideas, see what other people are doing, what you like, what you hate, and learn what your style is. All of those things are essential parts of designing your wedding. But at some point, it’s important to step back from Pinterest, and change your focus to figuring out what will be right for YOUR wedding.

Why You Dont Want A Pinterest Wedding via TheELD.com

Image by Spindle Photography, Via Honeycomb Wedding Ideas {Classic}

I asked some of the members of The V List for their tips on using Pinterest, and how to not end up with a “Pinterest Wedding”, and they had some GREAT insight…

“I absolutely recommend that brides use Pinterest during their initial stages of design conception. It helps gets the juices flowing. However, I always tell my brides to jump off once they have their ideas together. Use it for inspiration, not for duplication. Your wedding should be a reflection of you and your relationship with your betrothed, not something that was meaningful to someone else. If you allow Pinterest to dictate your wedding, you will never be satisfied with the results because it will NEVER look like what you’ve seen because too many variables are in play. Allow yourself to be completely taken with what YOU come up with and the beauty that YOUR vendors create and capture!” – Emily of Emily Grace Design

“You want your wedding and your wedding photos to tell the story of YOU and YOUR LOVE, without feeling the pressure to live up to other people’s ideas of the perfect wedding. When you ask your photographer to replicate images found on Pinterest, the authentic emotion he/she is trying to capture immediately disappears. Pinterest has its place, and can be a great source of inspiration, but leave it there. The images you want hanging on your wall when you’re 80 are the ones that show true emotion, not a shot of paper straws inside a mason jar.” – Cat of Cat Pennenga Photography

“Your wedding is about you and your husband, and YOUR style. But this mostly pertains to photos IMO. Your wedding isn’t only about your style, but YOUR moments as a bride, friend and new wife, not someone else’s. Asking your photographer to recreate certain poses that you see not only stifles their creativity because they’re trying to shoot from your list of “must haves”, but it is also forcing a moment between you and your husband rather than letting one happen organically. No photographer can perfectly recreate the photos you see on Pinterest; the lighting, venue, flowers, outfits, time of year, etc is all different from your wedding. And telling your photographer that you want that EXACT pose will only set you up for disappointment when it doesn’t turn out that way. So trust your photographer to do what they do best and those beautiful moments will happen on their own. (And better yet, they’ll be all yours and no one else’s!)” – Ashley of Ashley McCormick Photography

 “My two most effective ways to utilize Pinterest: 1) for figuring out what YOU are drawn towards naturally for both color palette and overall aesthetic. 2) Pinterest can be a great tool for finding solutions for a specific item (i.e., napkin fold options, print material verbiage). Beyond that- I always advise my brides to stay off Pinterest once we decide on their design board!” – Laura of Ashton Events


Again, I’d like to reiterate that this isn’t saying to not use Pinterest to find inspiration and ideas for your wedding. Please do- it’s amazing for that! But I want to encourage you to infuse yourself and your relationship into your wedding design too, and that sometimes means stepping away from Pinterest.

I’d love to hear about what you all think about the “Pinterest Wedding”… have you been to one? What are you doing to ensure that you won’t have a “Pinterest Wedding”?

PS- If you’re not already following me on Pinterest, come pin with me! ;)

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Lauren

Founder & Editor at Every Last Detail
Lauren Grove is the editor and owner of Every Last Detail. A clueless bride-turned-wedding planner, Lauren uses her experiences and knowledge to educate and inspire brides all over the world.
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19 responses to Why You Don’t Want A “Pinterest Wedding”

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  1. Gee | EverythingWeddingsAndMore (just curious)

    Originality is key..or at least if no originality brides should try to tweak somethings to reflect them and not the “masses”

  2. Sukey (just curious)

    Great advice to step away from the boards after the decisions are made.Otherwise, I can only imagine how many last minute changes would result !

  3. LinenTablecloth (a Vendor)

    Great advice, Lauren et al! Weddings should definitely reflect the couple’s personality, and I always urge our customers to try to come up with their own ideas, and just use photos as inspiration!

  4. Rachel Griffin (a Vendor)

    Love this! It’s exactly what I tell my brides as well. Great for inspiration, then step back and keep it personal to you both and your unique story!

  5. Sandy Shannon (a Vendor)

    LOVE this post! It is such an important lesson for brides-to-be and something I tell my own quite often.

  6. Sara (just curious)

    Great post! Putting your own twist on anything is always a good idea. Plus – inspiration, not imitation is key!

  7. Steph | The Event Crashers (a Vendor)

    This is a great post, Lauren! Telling the couple’s love story in their own way is key!

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  9. Christie O. {Mountainside Bride} (just curious)

    You bring up some super interesting issues here Lauren. The most interesting to me is the idea that a wedding has to be original. It has to be original to me a publisher, but why does it have to be original for a bride? Up until recently in history, a wedding was a play-by -the-numbers affair that tapped into tradition and originality was unheard of. The point was part right of passage for the couple, part legal and economic union of two, part property transfer (the woman and her dowry being the property) and part community celebration of the whole event. Now, don;t get me wrong, as a blogger I like the shift to weddings as personal expression, and as a woman I like the shift away from the idea that I am owned by another person. However, I am not sold on the idea that originality is a goal of a wedding. It is the goal of publication, and it may be important to some brides (including your readership) but I think their is also room for brides who just want to have a pretty wedding without the added pressure being original with their details :-)

  10. Sofia (a Vendor)

    This is truly a great post and I couldn’t agree more with every word you wrote! I love Pinterest and use it almost every day but I really think it’s time we all take a step back and seek inspiration in a place that truly reflects the couple’s unique vision!!

  11. Becky. H (a Bride)

    I agree with you Christie. There are thousands of brides and weddings featured on the web every day. If you get too caught up in trying to be original you may end up with something that really isn’t you. Chances are good that no matter how original you try to be it has already been done. I think it is best to focus on what you find pleasing and beautiful. In the end you and the person you are marrying are what makes your wedding special and unique, it isn’t really about the table numbers, menus etc. That said the article certainly has a point. I’m a little tired of flowers in a mason jar myself.

  12. Kim (a Bride)

    Great article, Lauren. As a bride who is currently planning her own wedding (with the help of my wonderful fiance who is less into Pinterest and more into coming up with ideas on our own) I can totally relate. I think that people need to remember that Pinterest is also a place to collect ideas that you found allover the web, not just a site you go to to search for ideas.

    @Christie O. {Mountainside Bride} I think that her Lauren’s point is that if you’re going to go to all of the trouble of incorporating elaborate details, then those details should be original. If you’re going to have a “play-by -the-numbers affair” as you call it, then this doesn’t really apply.

    @Becky. H – I’m with you on the mason jars!

  13. Tatiana (a Vendor)

    I don’t see anything wrong with pulling inspiration from Pinterest but my biggest pet peeve are the brides and grooms who get upset when they cannot create these insanely lavish designs on a budget. It certainly gives a false sense of what a regular wedding is, however I like being able to create similar things for couples!
    Nothing wrong with taking the inspiration and adding your own personal touches!

  14. Kelley (a Vendor)

    I think it’s silly for any designer or couple to think they can reinvent the wheel when it comes to wedding designs. At this point, most everything has been done. Lucky for us, we have Pinterest as a visual tool to find the design in our heads and see how we can change it whether its color, season, budget or special personal touches that make it unique to that couple. In the rare case where someone wants the exact design whether its a bouquet or cake, thats fine too, they aren’t copying the entire original wedding.

  15. PragmaDesigns (a Vendor)

    It breaks my heart to see the downtrodden gaze of an over-Pinterested bride. It can be a wonderful tool to find budget-friendly ways of getting a look you want, but too often it either becomes discouraging to see 5 foot centerpieces dripping in orchids or an over-promise of what you can actually DIY in the time you have.

  16. Kim (just curious)

    Please keep in mind that Pinterest is there to share ideas. While many of us are blessed with creativity, there are many more who are not. I meet so many people who cannot even use a glue gun, let alone come up with an idea for their wedding. While I agree brides should put their own personal touch into their Pinterest ideas, sometimes that is just not possible. Hence, the reason they turn to Pinterest. It gives people the opportunity to beautify their wedding and if that makes them happy, we should be happy for them.

  17. Michelle B (a Vendor)

    Thank you for this article. I agree Pinterest can be a blessing and a curse. There are many beautiful images of lavish weddings and the expectations from a client can be high to have the visual, exactly as seen. I explain to my clients that we are using a pinterest board as inspiration. I think wedding planning has evolved. Couples use to use and tear magazines pictures as inspiration. It is cheaper faster and easier to use pinterest. I love having a visual “conversation” with my clients. I agree with Christie O from Mountainside Bride about originality. As a former art teacher, I would give the exact same lesson with the same colors, same materials and each one looked different and unique because my students were individuals.. I would love to see an wedding editorial where you give different event and floral designers the same components (colors, flowers, hard goods) and see what they come up with for a wedding. The possibilities are endless!

  18. Christina Maldonado (a Vendor)

    Amen! Very well written. I will be sharing this. Pinterest can be used for good but things can get a bit over done as well. I really enjoy the weddings that clients put together that have true touches of who they are as a couple. They are always the best…not what is trending on Pinterest.

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