by: Lauren

I may be a wedding blogger, but I do know a thing or two about weddings, since I used to plan and design weddings. I worked with brides, parents, and even grooms, and yes, it was trying and stressful at times… but it always ended up being more rewarding than anything else! And through it all, I definitely witnessed a few instances where things were a bit more stressful than they should have been, and it all came down to one single wedding planning mistake…

not communicating!

 

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The ability to communicate is one of our biggest gifts as humans, don’t you think? It enables us to share what we are thinking, what we want, and what our hopes and desires are. But when we don’t communicate, problems ensue. I’m pretty sure we’ve all experienced the repercussions of not communicating, and usually the results aren’t the best. Whether it’s a fight with a friend or loved one because you didn’t communicate, or choking down a bad meal at a restaurant because you don’t want to say anything, not communicating just never ends well. Just like communication is important for life, it will be good to remember to communicate when it comes to wedding planning too.

A wedding is a very visual thing. Most brides (and grooms too) have a vision of what their wedding should or will be like- whether they know it or not. There are expectations that you have when you’re planning a wedding, and it’s important to communicate those expectations to the team involved in making your wedding happen. After all… as much as I’m sure they wish they were, they aren’t mind-readers!

So with all of that said, here are a few tips (ones that I wish I had known) to help you avoid the mistake of not communicating:

Preferred method of communication…

Make sure you have provided your wedding vendors with how you prefer to be contacted. Some people are awful at email, and awesome at phone calls, while some are great with email and horrible with the phone. If you let them know what your preferred method of communication is right off the bat, then you won’t have to worry about not being able to effectively communicate!

 

Establish expectations…

Not all vendors are going to need the same level/amount of communication from you, but I know that sometimes it can feel weird if you don’t hear from them in a while. To avoid this, ask your vendors right off the bat what you should expect for a timeline of communication. Will you be working with them throughout your whole planning process? Or maybe you just need to make a few decisions early on or a few months before the wedding. Each professional can inform you as to what their typical process is so you can establish communication expectations.

 

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Share your vision…

Like I said before, you all have some kind of vision in your head for what you expect for your wedding day. It may be super specific, or it may be just one little thing you’re thinking of- whatever it is, share it, because it’s part of your vision that you need to communicate to your team.

 

Don’t hold back…

If you find yourself dreaming of something, thinking of an idea you think might be crazy, or even just wondering about something, don’t hold it back! Share it with who you’re working with, because you never know what could come from it! Besides- if you have something you want for your wedding that you hold captive in your head, it’s going to become an expectation, and you’re just going to be disappointed if you don’t have it!

 

And because I want to always provide you with plenty of information, I asked members of The V List for some of their tips and insight when it comes to communicating…

“Trust (both ways!) is the absolute most important thing to me as a planner. I cannot fix, change, or mediate a circumstance for a client unless I know there is an issue in the first place. I would much rather a client voice a concern with me quickly than to let a worry develop into something that is irreversible. I promise that voicing an honest concern will only help our relationship! I love my vendors, and I value authenticity with each of them. Having the same open lines of communication & trust with my clients only makes the planning process that much smoother.” – Laura of Ashton Events

“Keep in mind that fast response times are completely warranted during normal business hours and we try and return every phone call and email within the hour, but at the most within 24 hours. However, there are occasions (weekends and evenings) when we may be at another event or spending time with our family, and it is not possible to respond right away. Please have patience and know that we will respond as soon as time permits.” – Kelly of Just Save The Date

“If you DON’T go with a vendor, we always appreciate a “hey – we decided to go in another direction” because on the other side of it, it’s always in the back of our mind to follow up with you. Wedding pros put a lot of time into inquiries whether they book or not and we are always happy when someone gives us the courtesy of a follow up to say they want to proceed or went with someone else.” – Mikkel Paige

“Read emails thoroughly!!! Everyone (including me!) is guilty of breezing through incoming emails on your phone. Make sure you set aside time to break out the trusty ol laptop and digest what your vendor is telling you via email (like appointment times that are available for a meeting we are trying to coordinate). Respect the time it took your vendor to write you a response to your questions and concerns by actually digesting and reading what they said.” – Leigh Pearce Weddings

“It is so important to have open lines of communication with all of your vendors, but especially your planner, and even more so if you have a full service planner. One big pet peeve is when clients don’t communicate to me what they have told another vendor, and then I get an angry call from the other vendor when my schedule gets sent and it doesn’t match what that particular vendor has. If you want to have an excellent vendor team that is going to work together and provide you with the best service, you need to keep everyone on the same page and communicate the same message.” – Kelly of Just Save The Date

“Clarity of responsibilities- written bullet points up front will address potential issues. This will ensure that you and your vendors are on the same page and eliminate possible misunderstandings.” – Angela of Rocking H Ranch

“Follow up with your vendors when you have agreed to. When a bride and I decide on a follow up date or time and I don’t hear back from them for months I start to get worried! As a planner I am communicating with vendors on the bride’s behalf but if the bride and I aren’t communicating, things can come to a stand still. I know everyone gets busy but we do have certain deadlines to meet so a quick text or email to let me know when is a good time to follow up, discuss, meet, etc is much better than just not getting back to us at all. Plus, I like to know everything is okay!” – Kelly Hancock Events

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 These are all such amazing tips… I hope y’all are armed and ready with plenty of insight to avoid the mistake of not communicating enough with your vendors!

I’d love to hear from you- what is your plan (or what have you been doing already) to ensure that you communicate with your wedding team? Do you have a preference for how you communicate with them? 

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by: Lauren

Meredith and Alex’s glamorous Georgia wedding was nothing short of a showstopper. From a grand reception with a stunning head table under a large chandelier to the simplicity of the stationery and florals, we are loving how classic this couple’s style was for their wedding day. And what stands out even more than the elegance of the day, is the joy that radiates from this couple.

Scobey Photography not only captured these stunning images that tell the story of Meredith and Alex’s day, but also shared with us the hearts of this couple and the strong bond they have now not only as husband and wife, but also with their incredible family. We love the family photos they chose to display as guests entered the reception, and it shows the beautiful history of strong marriages that brought them to their wedding day. What a treasured history to celebrate! We think you’re definitely going to love the elegant style and pure joy that is captured in this couple’s day!

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There is just so much to absolutely love about this wedding day! Our favorite detail has to be the stunning head table that served as a major focal point in the reception. From the opulent centerpiece dripping with florals and candles to the crystal chandelier, it surely kicked-up the wow factor as guests celebrated the marriage of this beautiful couple.

 

VENDORS WHO MADE IT ALL HAPPEN…

Photographer:  Scobey Photography // Transportation: Atlantic Limousine and Transportation // Location: Atlanta Athletic Club  // Band: Band X // Event Designer: Bold American Events // Dress Store: Bridals by Lori // Cinema and Video: Dewitt Smith video Production LLC // DJ: EEP Events // Event Planner: EEP Events LLC // Invitation Designer: Paper Daisies Stationery



by: Lauren

Soft pinks and bright floral patterns provide a gorgeously cheerful mood to today’s elegant southern wedding at Piedmont Driving Club. The high ceilings, grand arches and columns, and soft gathered draperies of the venue provided the perfect backdrop for Sophie and Alec to celebrate their marriage among family and friends.

Simple and classic is the perfect way to describe this bride’s style, and we love the pops of bold floral patterns inspired by the Alfred Sung bridesmaid dresses worn by her best girls. We love how they carried this fun pattern all throughout the design of their day by incorporating it in their invitation suite, the escort display, the custom table linens, the cake, and of course, the beautiful arrangements that made the entire day look like an elegant indoor garden. Kate & Campbell Creative Weddings & Events pulled the day together in a classy and effortless way, and Rustic White Photography captured the sweet floral details from this elegant southern celebration. We can’t wait for you to see all of the beauty!

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I just don’t know if we can even get enough of all of those flowers! We are at a total toss up around here between Sophie’s stunning veil and all of the floral details, but we’ll settle for loving them both!

 

VENDORS WHO MADE IT ALL HAPPEN…

Photography: Rustic White Photography // Coordination: Kate & Campbell Creative Weddings & Events // Event & Floral Design: Faith Flowers // Ceremony Venue: Pulse Church // Reception Venue: Piedmont Driving Club // Cake: Piedmont Driving Club // Hair & Makeup: The Moore Agency  // Wedding Dress: Lela Rose // Dress Boutique: Kelly’s Closet // Veil: Claire Pettibone // Bridesmaids Dresses: Alfred Sung // Linens: I Do Linens // Band: Flavor Big Band // Furniture Rentals: Collection Event Furnishings



by: Carly

From the incredible opportunities for photos to the once-in-a-lifetime chances to introduce all of your favorite people to your most treasured locations, there are so many reasons why you may be thinking about hosting a destination wedding. And, we can safely say we love them all! However, the road to a destination wedding can at times seem overwhelming.

Will guests travel?

How do we find talented wedding professionals?

How does one even plan such a thing?

In order to answer these questions and so many more, we turned to our most trusted source, the talented professionals of The V List! Below, you will find answers to some of your top questions as well as those you may not have thought of yet. Your destination wedding dreams absolutely can be closer than they may feel, especially if you have the right team on your side. Make sure to take a peek!

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1. Choose Your Destination Wisely:

Pick your destination carefully. Zika virus is becoming a major issue with destination weddings right now since many wedding guests tend to include pregnant or soon to be pregnant sisters or friends, and their partners who are becoming more cautious and less willing to chance it when it comes to traveling for a destination wedding. Couples who had been planning destination weddings to countries on the CDC Zika watch list have been moving them to safer destinations which can cost a fortune and which might not be covered by insurance. Popular destination wedding locations that the CDC is recommending avoiding travel to include Mexico, Costa Rica, Aruba, Barbados, Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, the US Virgin Islands, and Fiji among others. For an up to date list of Zika impacted countries visit the CDC website. Tracie Domino Events

2. Be Flexible:

When planning a Destination Wedding, be flexible and keep an open mind. Something that may be the “norm” where you live could be completely different where you are hosting your wedding! Liz & Lex Events

3. Work with a Wedding Planner:

It is really important to hire a wedding planner who is well-experienced with weddings in that destination and meshes with your personality as well that can bridge the gap between cultures. I specialize in Hawaii destination weddings (Although based in CA, I lived there for 5 years) and there is a big difference between Mainland U.S. and local Hawaiian expectations on response time and overall communication it can be frustrating for couples trying to plan a wedding there. By me understanding both sides and maintaining my relationships there, I am better equipped to assist my clients for a stress-free wedding – planning process and day of. Michelle Garibay Events 

4. Hire the Right Wedding Professionals: 

Depending on your destination location, you may be offered a “resort photographer” or “staff photographer.” If your wedding photos are a priority to you, you will be more confident and be more likely to have the images that you want if you source your own photographer from home. Although there will be travel expenses associated with bringing in a photography team, oftentimes, it is a comparable cost to finding photographers at popular destinations, because there is a higher market in these areas. This way, you still have a chance to work personally with your photographer throughout the planning process, have an engagement session to build rapport, and be able to follow up in person for things such as album design and prints after the wedding is over. Ashley Gerrity Photography 

Don’t be afraid to ask the venue for what you want. Some won’t allow outside vendors, but they may let you pay extra to bring someone in. Don’t disguise your photographer as a guest though…you can get in trouble with your venue and annoy the local photographer! Melissa McClure Photography

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5. Make Sure Your Wedding Venue is an Ideal Venue:

If at all possible plan an in depth visit to the venue ahead of time before signing on the dotted line and putting down a deposit. Seeing a venue in all its glory in perfectly staged and lit professional photos is much different than walking through it in person. Things you wouldn’t see in a magazine feature like the bathroom facilities, parking lots, the quality of the space, the bar set up, etc. are details you’ll want to see for yourself; sometimes these things can make or break your best wedding day vision! A venue walk through is also a perfect opportunity to meet the venue coordinator, ask critical questions (or have your planner ask them for you!), and envision how your own day will unfold. Hey Gorgeous Events

6. Think About Travel for Professionals & Guests:

Know that a destination event requires more on not only you, your fiance, and your families (unless you’re eloping!) but also your guests. This is especially true of any wedding across country or across the pond. Giving your guests ample time to prepare for travel and safe up necessary finances is courteous and ensures the people you love and treasure will be able to celebrate with you! Hey Gorgeous Events

Talk to your photographer about travel fees. Every single one of them treat it differently. Some photographers don’t charge any travel fees, while others do. Some specialize in destination weddings, while others only accept a few a year. Rudy + Marta Photography

7. Communication with Guests is Key:

Create a website or even better, a Facebook group to communicate information to your guests. It allows them to ask questions for all to see, find roommates if needed and plan events around the wedding day easier. Don’t forget about those non-Facebook users too…an email or phone call is good to keep them in the loop. Melissa McClure Photography

8. Warmly Welcome Your Guests & Wedding Pros:

I frequently make custom maps for couples planning destination weddings. These maps are extremely helpful for your guests because they won’t know their way around town. Including a map in the welcome bags for your guests allows you to let your guests know where and when your wedding events are happening, but it also allows you to let them know about some fun activities they can enjoy in their downtime. Let them know where the local hot spots are, fun sight seeing locations, or even some places they can just kick back and relax. Everyone will have a great time and remember your destination wedding as a great adventure! Feathered Heart Prints

Include your destination vendors in the non-wedding day activities – and don’t expect them to work. Including them in the welcome bags is always a nice touch too!Melissa McClure Photography

9. The Sun is Not Your BFF:

Enjoy the SHADE :-) on the days leading up to your wedding once at your destination location. You’re usually at your destination, relaxing with your guests for days before the wedding, which usually means pool or beach time. You don’t want to be a lobster or have awful bathing suit lines on your wedding day! Sunscreen and shade are your friends. Mikkel Paige Photography

10. Capture Every Moment:

Add extra time for photos. This is a once in a lifetime experience for you and everyone involved. Don’t be afraid to leave the venue for epic photographs. 

Consider a Post-Wedding Session. The couple and photographer could get together on a weekday following the wedding to truly get unique images around the location where they got married. No stress about being on a timeline, so it’ll be just the two of them and their photographer. Relaxed and in no rush. Good times for all.Rudy + Marta Photography


Are you planning a destination wedding? Have you attended a destination wedding? Let us know which tips you would add to our list in the comments!

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